5 Beliefs That Can BLOCK Secure Attachment, And a Practice to Shift Them.
5 Beliefs That Keep You Stuck in Insecure Attachment (and How to Shift Them)
đź“ť Show Notes: Hey there, and welcome back to the Resource Yourself Podcast with Sefora Janel Ray.
In today’s episode, we’re digging deep into the five sneaky beliefs that keep people trapped in patterns of insecure attachment — even after years of therapy, personal growth, or trying to “do the work.”
Whether you identify with anxious, avoidant, or disorganized attachment (or just feel like love is a struggle), these beliefs might sound painfully familiar: “I can’t get enough support.” “I’m fundamentally alone in life.” “Something’s wrong with me — that’s why love doesn’t work out.” “If I let myself hope, I’ll just be disappointed.” “Being in relationship is stressful and hard.”
These beliefs often form in childhood or through painful adult relationships — and without realizing it, you may still be living by them. In this episode, Sefora breaks each one down, explaining:
✨ Where it comes from
✨ How it impacts your nervous system and relationships
✨ Why it creates a self-fulfilling cycle of stress, disconnection, and self-blame
✨ And how to begin shifting out of the primal state that keeps you stuck
You’ll also hear a powerful reframe: Secure attachment isn’t just something you have — it’s something you can practice. It’s a state of being that’s available to you, and it starts with learning to receive support.
If you’ve ever thought: “Why do I feel like I’m always chasing love?” “Why is it so hard to trust people will show up?” “Maybe I’m just too much…” — then this episode is for you.
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